Want to create a campus where everyone feels seen and respected? Discover why pronouns matter, how to use them right, and easy ways you can be a true ally at Aston. Your words have power, let’s use them to build inclusion together!
Respect My Pronouns – Information Guide for Aston Students & Staff 🏳️🌈
At Aston Students’ Union, we are dedicated to fostering an environment where everyone feels seen, respected, and supported. Language plays a crucial role in inclusion, and one of the simplest ways to show respect for someone's identity is by using their correct pronouns. International Pronouns Day, observed every October 16, reminds us that pronouns are more than just grammar, they are about respect and recognition.
This guide, created by our President of Wellbeing & Inclusion, aims to help our community understand what pronouns are, why they matter, and how to use them respectfully in everyday life.
Understanding Pronouns
Pronouns are words used to refer to someone without using their name, such as she/her, he/him, or they/them. Everyone uses pronouns, and everyone has the right to be addressed in a way that aligns with their identity.
It’s important to remember:
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Pronouns don’t always indicate gender expression.
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Some people use multiple pronouns (e.g., she/they).
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Others may prefer no pronouns at all, using their name instead.
Respecting someone’s pronouns validates who they are and helps create a safer, more inclusive campus for everyone.
Why Pronouns Matter
Using correct pronouns is a basic form of respect, just like using someone’s correct name. When pronouns are ignored or assumed incorrectly, it can make individuals feel unseen or excluded.
Using the correct pronouns:
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Builds trust and belonging in classrooms, teams, and student groups.
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Supports the wellbeing of trans and nonbinary students and staff.
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Reflects Aston’s core values of equality, diversity, and inclusion.
A small effort, such as checking pronouns or sharing your own, makes a significant difference in fostering a culture of inclusion.
Common Pronouns and Examples
| Pronouns |
Example |
Meaning / Use |
| He / Him |
He brought his laptop |
Commonly used by men |
| She / Her |
She joined her lecture online |
Commonly used by women |
| They / Them |
Tehy left their notebook in class |
Used by nonbinary people or when gender is unknown |
| He / They or She / They |
He said they'd join later / She said they'd join later |
Used by people comortable with both pronoun sets |
| Name Only |
Alex said Alex will help later |
Used by people who prefer not to use pronouns |
| Ze / Hir (Zee / Here) |
Ze submitted hir work early |
Gender-netural alternative some people use |
How to Use Pronouns Respectfully
Here are some practical ways to show allyship and respect in everyday interactions:
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Share your own pronouns
When introducing yourself, say, “Hi, I’m Sam — I use they/them pronouns.”
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Ask if you’re unsure
Politely and privately ask, “Hey, I want to make sure I’m addressing you correctly — what pronouns do you use?”
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Correct yourself gently
Mistakes happen. Simply correct yourself quickly: “She—sorry, they—emailed me about that earlier.”
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Respect privacy
Some individuals may not be out in every space. Avoid sharing someone’s pronouns without their consent.
Pronoun Badges at Aston Students’ Union
To support inclusive representation, Aston Students’ Union are offering a limited number of pronoun badges to students and staff. These can be requested from the SU Reception, any staff member, the Wellbeing Department, or one of the Student Officers. Wearing a pronoun badge is a simple but powerful way to demonstrate respect, solidarity, and a commitment to making Aston a welcoming space for everyone!
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